Overview

1. Others may see you as disciplined and self-controlled. You have seen the problems of being overly optimistic when planning to depend on others following through.
2. You usually assume a cautious and reserved demeanor when meeting new people. Your relationships must grow naturally and in sincere ways. You will not confide in others readily because of your need for security.
3. Others showing genuine sincerity and acceptance impress you. You do not like a shallow expression of feelings or thoughtlessness of others. You will get along with most people you meet because you don’t cause hostility.
4. Because of your thoughtful nature, you need others to express sincere interest in you or the relationship. This offers the secure feeling that you seek.
5. During times of stress or tension, you may withdraw inside yourself and appear as somewhat cool and aloof. You need to be alone when thinking through projects, problems or solutions.
6. You may be a matter-of-fact person who may be critical of the shortcomings of others who display a more emotional or outgoing side.

Communication

1. You tend to listen rather than talk. You may place a premium on display of emotions. As a result, "reading" you at times may be difficult.
2. You may be somewhat reticent and retiring when with others, especially in a large group. As others grow louder, you may become quieter. You value control of emotions, and are more reflective than rowdy.
3. You are usually astute in social situations because you take little at face value, will listen carefully and accurately, and will watch others carefully.
4. You may want to base relationships on a nonemotional respect for each other’s abilities, and base your level of trust on directness and straightforwardness.
5. Some people may inaccurately perceive you as not liking people. You may be misread by others, because you approach social situations with logic and objectivity, judging others by their competence–you may sometimes be misread by others.
6. Because of your need to be quiet rather than rambling, you are somewhat introspective about events and activities. You may not communicate readily and rapidly with others, but this does not mean you don’t support others.
7. You attempt to influence others not by showing great emotion, but by appealing to the logical nature of people. Those who are more emotional and excitable may sometimes ignore your approach.

Improving Communication

1. Find areas of common interest and involvement.
2. Provide time to analyze the data before making a decision.
3. Be responsive toward ideas and commitments.
4. Patiently draw out personal interests.
5. Use a logical and unemotional approach.
6. Show patience, especially when drawing out information.
7. Show sincere interest as a person.
8. Respect quiet demeanor.
9. Have facts and ideas in a logical order.
10. Use a tone of voice that shows sincerity.
11. Listen sincerely.

Strengths

1. You are excellent at listening to the concerns and ideas of others.
2. You are very sincere in actions and words.
3. You are a dependable and caring partner.
4. You are good at reconciling (i.e. you don’t like to sulk after a conflict is resolved).
5. You don’t tend to get distracted by superficial issues.
6. You are good at "troubleshooting" potential problems in a relationship.
7. You take pride in being very loyal to friends and family.
8. You tend to work hard at making sure that other people are happy.
9. You are very supportive of other people.
10. You are good at helping other people to reach their goals.

Needs

1. A predictable environment with few surprises that are not "planned."
2. Scheduled activities with no haphazard or unplanned activity.
3. Freedom from pressure to perform or to act quickly without precedent.
4. Recognition for your concern for quality relationships.
5. Time to think things over before making a commitment.
6. Time and opportunity to weigh pros and cons of decisions.
7. Things done "right" the first time.
8. Fewer changes, if many changes have occurred recently.
9. Protection or insulation from aggression or confrontation.